I believe in our innate capacity and longing for intimacy and connection, alongside our need for the time and place to be alone and in solitude. As each couple is as unique as the individuals who have paired, how I approach their particular difficulties will be different. I always touch on their relationship dynamics, how they respond to each other and make explicit the patterns that has evolved between them. With deeper understanding of how this pattern has developed while attuning to deeper emotional statements and needs, possibilities open up to respond in different ways that are more conducive to their underlying yearnings of connection. For some, noticing communication styles that have a destructive force makes a great difference in the tone of their relationship. Criticism or self judgement does not change relationships yet understanding your own and your partners learned relational patterns and challenging implicit relational knowing can help couples work on their difficulties. The individuals love language is another way in which couples bring greater awareness to where they are ‘missing’ each other. Working in many eclectic ways on various levels in the relationship broadens the capacity of the couple to move in ways which are freeing and loving at the same time.